Some great articles for further research - going to leave them here because you folks should have a look at it too! :)
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
Anonymous asked: You can't make a cosplay a few days before a convention!!!
Not when I shift to
I don’t cosplay but I’d probably nail it, lol
My whole 4 years of art school is a summary of this xD
I want to write a story about a woman who got raped by a man, then gets revenge on him by starting a relationship with him and when she’s about to have sex with him she ties him to the bed and murders him
So how exactly do you expect your main character to just calmly start a relationship with the person who fucking raped her, lol. Even though it’s for revenge in the end. What a mental state to be in. Or maybe it could be like Stockholm Syndrome somthing blabla